Parents are the role models for their children , so the kids just repeat their parents. Kids are the most observant beings on the earth & great imitators. Do you agree ? They are curious & are very busy all the time.I think they donot know whats meant boredom.Here comes the good parents thinking , they have all the right to say the best things to their children through their speeches.Do you think it works ? The mother nature designed our brains in such a way that we learn by seeing & observing not by listening.So what ever you say to your children , they are going to do what you do rather than what you say. Isn’t it ? There is an old saying that ‘ A blind person cannot show the way to others ‘. No animal on the planet teaches their progeny about What to do by speeches except one. After all when we do something we donot need to say , that means when we are saying something to our children that means we are not doing it or not spending enough time with our children to let them observe what we are doing.I repeat we all humans learn by observing.
In simple terms good parents tell their children what is best where as great parents listen to their children & understand them enough.The great parents try to tell through their actions rather than words as they know our brains are more sensitive to actions than words.It applies not only to parent but also partner , teacher & a friend.The great ones are the listeners , where are the good ones are speakers. Its said most of the problems just needs to be listened.Its easier said than done. Do you think deep listening can itself solve most of the problems ?
So all parents shall we start listening to your children ?Even its said first we give & then we get. So lets listen to our children so that then they may listen back. Its based on my past few years of experience in meeting with 100’s of youngsters & their parents from India & world ,at present the parents couldnot understand what happening with their kids & the same with children.They are like aliens to each other living in the same house.Even researches say a good communication need a balance of speaking & listening but listening part forms 30% where as speaking dominates with 70%.When the other person feels he is not heard , the relationships doesnt strengthen.
So How to listen ?
Do schools teach us ?
Do parents teach us ?
Again they cannot teach what they donot know right ?
Before going ahead lets watch this short video :
Shall we start learning the habit of being a good listener ? to be a great friend , teacher , parent & a partner.
Trust me when we conciously listen it works like a magic. If the relationships are weak may be we dont listen to our partner or friend deep enough.As said we try to give solutions with own really listening to the true feelings of the other person .Even the physical health is getting worsened because we dont listen to our bodies.So lets start listening to ourself first so we listen to our family & friends.
Lets start listening & make it our habit.
I am ready to listen to you !
Are you ?